1 Corinthians 13:1-3 talks about what not having love means. It tells us that not having love makes everything we say or do meaningless or worthless.
In verse 4 we begin to see what it means to have real love. We also see what we should not have or how we should not act.
1 Corinthians 13:4 (NLT) says “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud.”
In the New King James version it says “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up.”
First off we see that love is patient or long suffering. I know that in our home, patience seems to always be a work in progress for not only our children but for us, the parents, as well. But love, real genuine love, is patient with imperfect people like ourselves.
The second thing that this verse says that love is, is being kind. What is being kind? It is active in doing good. This can be hard sometimes especially when you feel as though you have been mistreated or rejected. But the Bible says that we should treat others how we would want them to treat us (Matt 7:12). In fact, it says to NOT repay evil with evil (Rom 12:17). We should always be kind to others.
Being kind to others does not mean you allow others to walk all over you or allow people to take advantage of you. However, it does mean that if you need to tell people no or end a relationship (which you may have to do at some point in your life) you can do so kindly not by being bitter or mean.
In the second part of the verse we discover what love is not and does not act like.
Since love is not jealous then it is non-possessive and noncompetitive. Love actually wants to help others get ahead. Love is not boastful or proud it does not treat people arrogantly. Which goes back to being kind.
Are you remembering to actually do good to others? Have you been impatient with people lately? Have you been jealous of someone or what someone else has? Have you tried to make yourself look better than others by being boastful or proud?
You really need to think about this. You also really need to pray and ask God to show you how you can change your heart towards people.
Continue to work on memorizing 1 Corinthians 13:1-4. We want to be able to quote this whole chapter by the end of this study. ALSO work on treating others with kindness and patience. Remember that you are not perfect either and God loves you regardless of your imperfections. We need to do the same for those around us.
Lord, help us to learn to treat others with patience and kindness. Even when others hurt and mistreat us let us be reminded that we too are imperfect people and others deserve the same treatment we expect from them. Help us to hide these verse in our hearts. In Jesus name, Amen.